The Hug Series – The beauty of hugs.

​I love hugs.

I love to give hugs as much as I like to receive hugs. I have found that hugs can be a mood lifter indeed. I have seen it happen to people and I have experienced it myself.

I love hugs.

That said, you’ll understand why I am going to be taking my time to expose the importance of hugs in this first series after which I will talk about ‘A Father’s hug’ in the next series.

The word ‘hug’ is believed to come from the word ‘hugga’, meaning ‘to comfort’ in the Old Norse language, first appearing approximately 450 years ago in Scandinavia.

I have met some guys and ladies that really do need to learn how to hug, some outrightly feel awkward when hugged and I wonder. Some guys have given me the ‘G-alert!’ look when I open my arms to them for a hug and their look just amuses me.

Have you ever hugged someone and they place their head,no, not head, their forehead pointing wickedly at your chest like a knife with their rear shooting out behind. 

I don’t know if that qualifies for a hug, but that ain’t the type of hug I am talking about here.

A hug with both arms wrapped around the other person, with both parties experiencing a relax in their body and then a little squeeze. Not the quick ‘drop-it-like-its-hot’ contact some make.

I know some people have really messed the act of hugs with perverted hearts, yet that doesn’t obliterate the fact that hugs can be sincere and true.

In a hug, you can express a thousand words that can’t be expressed verbally. 


Scientists interviewed 406 people daily for two weeks, asking them how often they’d had fights or hugged anyone. The researchers then exposed the participants to a cold virus (can’t imagine volunteering for that) and monitored them during a quarantine period of up to six days.

For infrequent huggers, the more conflicts they reported having with others, the greater their likelihood of infection, but regular huggers were protected from this stress-associated risk, says Sheldon Cohen, a professor of psychology at Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh –


It reduces anxiety and stress.

I personally call it the ‘healing hug’. When you receive a sincere hug, you’ll find that there is this tingly feeling that helps you relax and help ease stress, (at least it does that for me)


Reduces blood pressure and lowers heart rate.

Tiffany Field, psychologist at the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami, School of Medicine theorizes that hugging triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that helps us bond with one another, relaxes us, and lowers blood pressure.  –


Helps to form social support by increasing trust and happiness thanks to the ‘trust hormone’

Hugging increases the release of oxytocin also known as the ‘trust’ hormone.

This ‘trust hormone’ is responsible for bonding, feelings of emotional warmth, trust and even a feeling of ‘highness’. 

Keynotes about Hugs.

1. It doesn’t cost anything. 

They are free with no strings attached. First time I came in contact with ‘Free hug charity’ approaches, I was wowed.

2. It doesn’t take time.

Hugs, depending on the individuals can span between a brief one second to about 20secs or more.

3. It has a proven record.

Hugs have proven to help bring ease to our mental, medical, emotional and physical state. Why not indulge in it.

How to hug properly.

Like I mentioned earlier, some people need to learn how to properly.

1. Time states that “…to maximise oxytocin production and develop a real sense of trust between two people, research has shown 20-second hugs to be ideal”

If you can,please don’t escape from a hug to quickly. You may not stay locked in the hug for 20 long seconds, but enjoy it.

2. Relax.

Learn to relax especially when you are not the initiator. Don’t let your hands just hang limp to your sides, return the hug too by having your hand behind the person or across the shoulder firmly.

Find someone to hug now, your parent, friend or a total stranger (that you have permission from o), and enjoy the beauty of hugs.

Next time you see me, request for your hug. 😂😂🙌

Have you ever been hugged by a father figure before? Let’s talk about that in our next post.

Meanwhile, I would like to hear about your experiences with hugging – the beautiful, the weird and the hug gone wrong too! Please share in the comment box below.

Disclaimer: I know quite a number of people has perverted and taken advantage of hugs, other body contact means that you can get almost similar experiences are firm handshake, high five, shoulder hug and a pat on the back. So, in case you are not comfortable with hugs, enjoy any of these.

I love you.


22 thoughts on “The Hug Series – The beauty of hugs.

  1. Wow this is beautiful never really saw it from this perspective….
    But Personally I don’t hug guyz oooh… Except for the ones dt I know. And mostly I do side hugs. Cos i hrd someone say “tap current’
    N d engineering guyz v Bn with in school can b annoying. V greeted sme pple n dey wld b like u v to hug me, n I wld b like ‘Pele oh…’ and go my way.

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    1. Lol…wise decision. Demanding for hug is another matter altogether. You decide who you can hug. Yeah, like I mentioned too, people have just perverted the hugging experience ni.


  2. Lol…Nice though I don’t do hugs with guys,especially if you’re not very close to me. And I rarely hug the ladies sef because they ain’t willing… Thinking about it I know it’ll be a nice experience ,wish I could have one now sef. About the father figure hug that is yet to come, I don’t think I’ve ever experienced it and would really love to seriously. Thanks bro Lekan.

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    1. Thank you Munaolisa…True. Hugs can be restricted to how close you are to a person. Ladies are unwilling too ke? Yes, it is indeed. What’s stopping the experience @father figure hug?


  3. When I moved to a new church that hugs people, it was really new to me but it felt really good everytime and I warmed up faster in the church than ever before. I mostly do tighter hugs with ladies and side hugs with guys which sometimes turns out really awkward. 😂😂

    Oh, the research thingy about exposing people to virus, most participants have a form of compensation at the end of it so yeah… 😉😂✌

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  4. Hugs are really comforting… I remember lot of times when I share my problem with someone close to me, and I am thereafter offered hug,.. I cry all I can and when am done, I always feel comforted and comfortable…

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  5. Thanks for sharing this Uncle Lekan. Every line of it blessed me.
    I have really not been a hugging type(I prefer the firm Handshake ,Knuckles and high five)
    But I had to Deliberately learn how to Hug when started making and meeting friends that have over time turned brothers. Though I still have an issue with hugging the opposite sex because of my ugly encounters in the past.

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  6. Last Sunday I was at angry my efforts over somethings wasn’t yielding, I was really annoyed and fuming under my breath. Just then, a little girl approached me and like play I found myself hugging her so passionately. I repeated the action twice and that was exactly what I needed at that moment. It was so comforting and my little bae is so oblivious of how healing her hugs were that day.
    Asides comfort, I feel more relaxed hugging and praying for a sister, I pray more passionately that way and it’s almost becoming an addiction now 😂😂😂😂.
    Thanks for this piece Aremo, my heart blesses you

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  7. Why am I just reading this article? I totally love hugs. And I can attest to all the benefits of it outlined here. Hugs can be really interesting for me because sometimes I express myself through my hug, and Somehow the friend I hugged, decodes my message and hugs me a response…weird, right? I know 😁. I’m careful though with the opposite sex, except those I really trust.

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